In the state of ignorance, man is a big bundle of prejudices. He has his own set of beliefs regarding almost everything and everyone. He has compartmentalised his heart into two sections, black and white. For him, people are either ‘bad’ or ‘good’. However, he fails to recognise the truth that they are shades of grey. People are neither just good nor are they only bad. They have their own strengths as well as weaknesses. Therefore, do not censure anyone. Develop a way to learn from every person and each event. Benefit from what life has to offer you. One who does not have this virtue will not be able to learn even from the study of scriptures and the discourses of saints. Everyone has something worthwhile in him or her. One must learn to discover and imbibe that.

Preconceived Notions

You have preconceived notions about people even before you meet them, based on what you have heard about them from others. Imagine a painter painting a portrait of a person he has never seen. What would you say about that painter? What would the portrait look like? The portrait may turn out to be beautiful or ugly but it surely will not match the one whose portrait it is. A painter who engages in such practices will not be able to run his business well. Similarly, an irresponsible seeker, quick to assume does not progress on the spiritual path.

To assume without knowing, experiencing or personally verifying the facts, is not the mark of a seeker. A seeker is scientific. He will never jump to conclusions. It is not rational to pass judgements about people prior to meeting them, or to reject something without thoroughly examining it. A seeker is absolutely vigilant, responsible and patient. He does not form opinions based merely on hearsay; rather, he digs deeper into the matter to discover the truth.

Injustice

A seeker not only shows great maturity while verbalising his views regarding others, but he also remains fully aware while listening to someone’s opinion of another. He sees this as a huge responsibility. Unawareness in this is often the cause of many conflicts. Let us say someone is completely unknown to you. When another person speaks ill about that person, based on his likes and dislikes, if you accept that information without verifying it, you will hold a grudge against the first person. Once your mind is prejudiced, you will assess everything about him and every interaction with him through the lens of your biases. You will form false conclusions, spread incorrect information, and also erroneously doubt him. You will distance yourself from him, and in the process you will do him great injustice.

It is a sin to hold a bias against anyone. Even in a court of law, no judgement is passed or defendant penalised without a fair hearing. You are a real culprit, if without knowing the other person’s intentions, based on rumours, hearsay, or assumptions; you try to prove someone low, vile or sinful. It is unjust to deliver a verdict on someone, without giving him an opportunity to explain himself.

Incorrect Conclusions

Another mistake you commit is that, based on one event, you tend to build a permanent belief. Once a man cautioned another that there was heavy rainfall in Ahmedabad in December, so if he was going there at that time, it would be wise to carry an umbrella. On hearing this conversation, a third person said that he had lived in Ahmedabad for thirty years and had never seen rainfall in December. So he saw no point in insisting on the umbrella. Here, both had formed their opinions based on their own personal experiences. The first person had been to Ahmedabad just once in his lifetime. This was in December and that year, the city had exceptionally heavy rains. On the other hand, the one who lived in Ahmedabad was incidentally out of town that December and therefore had never experienced rainfall in December. Undoubtedly, in that particular year, it had rained heavily in the month of December, however the inference that it always rains in December was incorrect. Because something occurs once, you believe that it must always be the same. If a person has lied once, you conclude that he or she is a liar forever. Should one person cheat in a family, you will surmise that everyone in the family is a cheat. If a seeker from a spiritual group commits a sin you will judge the entire group to be sinners. Although the individual experience is true, it is incorrect to generalise it into a rule.

In unawareness, you make conclusions and then start believing them to be the truth and insist that others should have the same belief. You convincingly narrate them to others. Instead, if you can say, “this is my opinion”, “this is my experience”, “this is what someone has said”, then you allow others to think and draw their own conclusions independently.

Baseless Assertions

When you dig deeper into finding the basis of your beliefs you will find that they are formed by assumptions as opposed to facts. Just because a person encountered rains once in Ahmedabad in December he proclaimed that as reality. Most people do not analyse what they hear, they assume and accept it as a fact. They speak the way others speak and conduct themselves in the way they have been asked to behave. Based on unfounded beliefs, people fill their minds with many unwanted thoughts, and the stock keeps increasing day after day.